There’s a moment that keeps coming back to me even now, even after everything.

Not the moment he died, not the beatatification, not any of the extraordinary things that have been written about my son in the years since he left us.

The moment that comes back is smaller than all of that and somehow larger.

It’s the moment he walked through the kitchen door on a summer evening in 2003.

And I looked up from what I was doing and I knew immediately before he said a single word that something had happened to him.

Not something bad, something real, something that had changed the shape of him in a way I couldn’t yet name.

He was 12 years old.

He was wearing jeans and a t-shirt and the sneakers he wore everywhere that summer.

The white ones he refused to let me replace even after they’d gone gray with use.

He had the backpack from the parish retreat still on his shoulder.

And his face, his ordinary beloved 12-year-old face had something on it that I had never seen there before.

Not sadness, not fear.

Something I eventually found a word for.

Gravity.

The kind of gravity that belongs to people who have been entrusted with something heavy and are carrying it carefully.

We ate dinner as a family.

He was quiet, but not unusually so.

Carlo was often quiet at meals, thinking about something, processing something.

I didn’t push.

I’d learned early that he told you things in his own time and in his own way, and that patience was the right instrument with him, not pressure.

After dinner, while I was cleaning up the kitchen, I heard him come in behind me.

He stood in the doorway for a moment, and then he said, “Mom, can I talk to you?” We went to the living room.

We sat down and my 12-year-old son in his gray sneakers told me he had seen hell.

My name is Antonia Salano Akudis.

I am 58 years old.

And what I’m about to tell you is not the story most people know about Carlo.

It’s not the story of the websites or the Eucharistic miracles catalog or the beatification or the healings attributed to his intercession.

It’s an earlier story, a quieter one.

The story of a summer evening when my son came home from a retreat carrying something that neither of us fully understood and that I’ve spent more than 20 years learning to live with and eventually to be grateful for.

I want to start by telling you who Carlo was at 12 before the vision, before the retreat just as himself because I think it matters.

I think it matters that he was not a solemn otherworldly child who walked around trailing an atmosphere of holiness and making people nervous.

He was funny.

He was warm.

He was passionately interested in things that 12-year-olds are interested in.

Video games, computers, the specific passionate loyalties of early adolescence.

He had strong opinions about things that didn’t matter and occasionally indifferent ones about things that did.

He argued with me about ordinary things with the conviction of someone who has thought carefully about his position and is prepared to defend it.

He was in all the ways that count a completely normal kid.

He was also the kid who went to mass every morning voluntarily, who sat in adoration for hours and appeared genuinely content to do so, who talked about the Eucharist with an intimacy that should have been strange but somehow wasn’t because it was so clearly real to him, so clearly not performance.

He lived in two registers simultaneously, the completely ordinary and the completely transcendent.

and he seemed to experience no tension between them.

They were both just true.

He was both the boy in the gray sneakers and the boy who had what I can only call a personal relationship with something most of us only manage an occasional uncertain wave toward.

That summer the parish had organized a retreat for the young people.

three days focused on prayer, on the sacraments, on giving the kids dedicated space to encounter God outside the usual Sunday routine.

Carlo had been looking forward to it.

I drove him there, and when I picked him up, I was, as I told you, immediately aware that something had shifted.

I didn’t ask in the car.

He was quiet, looking out the window, and I let him be quiet.

at dinner.

Quiet again, but eating present, not withdrawn.

And then after the kitchen doorway, the request to talk.

We sat on the sofa.

I turned to face him properly because when Carlo wanted to talk, he deserved the full attention of the person he was talking to, and he took a breath.

And he told me that during the adoration, the extended adoration session on the second night of the retreat, he had seen something.

Mom, he said, I saw hell.

The room went very still.

I remember the particular quality of the silence in our living room at that moment.

The way the ambient sounds of the city outside seemed to recede.

I looked at my son’s face.

He was not distressed.

He was not traumatized in the way you would expect a child to be traumatized by something frightening.

He was grave, measured, precise, like someone reporting an observation that they have already processed internally and are now conveying to someone else as carefully as they can.

He said, “It’s not like in the movies, Mom.

There aren’t dancing flames or demons with horns.

It’s worse than that.

It’s a place of total absence.

He paused.

He seemed to be choosing words with deliberate care, the way he chose words when he was writing code, looking for the exact right term, not settling for approximate.

I saw people who couldn’t repent anymore, he said, because they had used up their whole capacity for love.

They were alone, even surrounded by others.

Because in hell there’s no encounter.

Each one is locked inside themselves with no way to touch anyone else.

And I heard the most terrible silence.

The silence of people who know that God is near but chose not to see him.

He kept speaking.

I kept listening.

My hands were on my knees and I was holding them still because they wanted to shake.

He described the faces of the people he had seen, not deformed or monstrous, which somehow would have been easier.

human faces, recognizable faces, faces with the specific quality of something permanently arrested, not in agony exactly, but in a kind of eternal fixedness, as if whatever the last expression of their heart had been, it had simply stayed that way, locked in with no possibility of movement.

And then he said the thing that has stayed with me more than anything else in that conversation.

He said, “What hurt most was seeing that some of those people had been good on earth, but they were holding one unforgiven sin, one resentment they never chose to let go of, and that resentment had turned them to stone forever.

” I don’t know if you’ve ever had the experience of hearing something that you immediately recognize as true, not because you verified it or because you have evidence for it, but because it lands in you with the weight of something you already knew and had never quite found the words for.

That’s what that sentence did to me.

Not a theological argument, not a complex doctrine, just one unforgiven resentment held until the end turns a person to stone.

I sat with that sentence for years.

I still sit with it.

I said because I am a mother and this is what mothers say.

Carlo, how can you know this? You’re just a child.

He looked at me and the look he gave me was something I have thought about more times than I can count because it was not the look of a child.

It was the look of someone who has been to a place you haven’t been and is trying patiently and without condescension to bring something of it back to you.

It was full of compassion, a compassion that wasn’t childlike in the slightest, that was larger and older than he had any right to carry.

He said, “God showed me because I need to pray more and because I need to tell people that hell is real, but it’s not a punishment God gives.

It’s a choice a person makes by saying no to love until the very end.

” What I saw frightens me, but it also gives me a mission to pray for the ones who are close to falling.

real quick.

If you want to go deeper with Carlo after this, I put together a 7-day guide, just 5 minutes daily.

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Links in the description.

Anyway, back to what I was telling you.

After he said that, he went to his room and got his notebook, one of those ordinary school notebooks, wire bound with the cardboard cover.

He came back to the living room, sat beside me, and drew something.

I watched him draw it.

He was quick and precise the way he was quick and precise about everything he made.

Two roads.

One road was wide at the beginning and got narrower until it hit a solid wall.

A wall drawn with firm final lines.

No way through, no way around.

The other road was narrow at the beginning, almost too narrow, and then it opened and opened and went off the edge of the page, past the margin, as if there wasn’t enough paper to contain where it went underneath, in his clear handwriting.

Hell is the wide road that ends at a wall.

Heaven is the narrow road that never ends.

He tore the page out and gave it to me.

I still have it.

I did not sleep well for weeks after that conversation.

Every night when I closed my eyes, I found that image waiting for me.

The description of the faces, the locked in silence, the resentment that turns people to stone.

I was not frightened in the conventional sense.

I wasn’t convinced I was going to hell or that people I loved were.

It was more elemental than that.

It was the feeling of having looked at something true.

really uncomplicatedly, unavoidably true that you can’t quite put back in the box once you’ve seen it.

The kind of truth that reorganizes the space around itself.

Carlo noticed.

Of course, he noticed.

Carlo noticed everything about the people he loved.

About a week after the conversation, I was lying awake at 2 in the morning and I heard his door open and then his footsteps in the hallway.

The soft padding of someone trying not to wake anyone.

His door.

My door.

A soft knock.

And then he came in and he was carrying I want to cry just telling you this.

He was carrying a cup of tea.

He had gotten up in the middle of the night, gone to the kitchen, made tea, and brought it to me because he knew I wasn’t sleeping, and he knew why.

He sat on the edge of my bed and handed me the cup.

He looked at me in the dark with those eyes that were never quite right for his age, and he said, “Mom, you don’t have to be afraid.

God showed me hell so I could love people more and help them not go there.

and he also showed me heaven.

” He paused.

“Do you want me to describe heaven?” I nodded.

I was crying a little, trying not to, holding the warm cup in both hands.

He said, “It’s the opposite.

There people are so united, they seem like one, but each one keeps their own unique joy.

It’s a hug that never squeezes too hard.

and Jesus is there looking at everyone as if each person is the only one.

He said it quietly in the dark, sitting on the edge of my bed with the simplicity of someone reporting something they have seen with their own eyes and are just describing accurately.

I want to bring as many people there as possible.

He said, “That’s why I’m going to make a website about Eucharistic miracles so everyone can know that Jesus is close.

” He sat with me until I finished the tea.

Then he said good night, went back to his room and closed his door softly.

I lay there in the dark holding the empty cup and I thought, “This child is not mine.

I mean, he is mine.

I grew him.

I know every expression his face makes.

I know how he takes his breakfast and what makes him laugh and the particular way he says my name when he needs something.

He is entirely mine in all those ways.

And he is simultaneously, unmistakably someone who belongs to something larger than me, something I can’t fully see from where I’m standing, something that was using him for purposes that went beyond any ordinary mother son story.

In the days after that conversation, Carlo changed, or rather, the direction he had always been moving in became clearer, more deliberate.

He started planning the website.

He researched Eucharistic miracles with the focused intensity he brought to all his projects, building his database with the systematic care of an archavist.

He went to mass every morning with a purposefulness that had always been there, but now felt like it had been calibrated to something specific.

He prayed with an attention that I recognized from that night in the living room as the attention of someone who knows exactly what’s at stake.

He was 12 years old.

He had jeans and sneakers and homework and friends and opinions about soccer.

and he had seen hell and been given a mission and was carrying both of those things with the equinimity of someone much older, much more seasoned, much further along in some process of becoming that most of us don’t begin until middle age, if ever.

I watched him, and I loved him, and I was afraid for him in a way I couldn’t name.

Not afraid that the vision had damaged him.

It clearly hadn’t.

afraid of the weight.

Afraid of what it meant to carry that kind of knowledge at that age.

Afraid in the particular way that parents are afraid when they understand that their child has been given a purpose that exceeds what parents can protect them from.

3 years later, he was sick.

3 years after that, he was gone.

The years after his death had a particular texture that I’ll try to describe honestly.

Grief.

Yes.

profound physical, the kind that lives in your body and reorganizes your relation to ordinary things.

The smell of coffee in the morning that I associated with him, the particular sound of someone typing quickly in another room.

The way the apartment felt differently waited without his presence.

These things don’t go away.

You learn to carry them, which is different from them disappearing.

But alongside the grief was work, and the work was sustaining.

The beatatification cause, the testimonies, the healings, the thousands of people who came forward with stories of Carlo’s intercession with accounts of encounters with his story that had changed the direction of their lives.

I immersed myself in all of it.

And in it, I found not a replacement for him, but a continuation, a way of staying connected to what he had been building while he was alive, a way of being useful to the thing he had set in motion.

I organized his writings.

I went through his notebooks, his files, the accumulated documentation of a mind that had been extraordinarily productive in a very short time.

And it was during this process, years after his death, that I found something in one of the 2003 notebooks, the same year as the retreat, the same year as the vision.

That stopped me completely.

The notebook was exactly what you’d expect from a 12-year-old boy.

Drawings from video games alongside programming notes, alongside homework.

the organized chaos of an active mind that didn’t separate its interests into neat categories.

And then in the middle of it, a page that was different, set apart, written in a different register, more careful, more deliberate, as if he had sat down specifically to record something important.

It was a detailed description of what he had seen during the adoration, more detailed than what he had told me that night, more precise in its language, richer in its imagery.

He had written it out carefully, like someone making a record that might need to serve as evidence later, and at the bottom of the page in pencil, smaller than the main text, set off as a footnote.

Mom, if you ever find this, remember God didn’t show me hell to scare me, but to make me holy.

And holiness is choosing love before it’s too late.

I’ve already chosen.

Now it’s your turn to trust that I’m okay.

Beside the footnote, a small drawing, a heart with a key through it.

I sat on the floor of his room for a long time with that notebook in my lap.

He had written it in 2003 when he was 12, addressed to a future version of me who would find it after his death.

He had imagined this moment.

Me older sitting with his notebook, needing to be told something, and he had reached forward across years and across death to tell it to me.

It’s your turn to trust that I’m okay.

I understood then something that I think I had been circling around for years without quite landing on.

The vision of hell had not been the end point of what Carlo received in that adoration.

It had been the beginning.

It had been the thing that clarified everything that came after.

every mass, every hour of adoration, every page of the eukaristic miracles database, every conversation with a friend who was struggling, every quiet act of prayer for someone he sensed was in danger.

The vision had given him his coordinates.

It had told him exactly what was at stake and exactly what the work was.

And he had carried it not as a burden but as a commission doing the work with the focused joy of someone who knows why they’re doing it.

That’s the thing about Carlo that I think is most difficult to convey.

He was not joyless in his seriousness.

He was not solemn in a deadening way.

He was joyful, genuinely, practically, warmly joyful, precisely because he understood what he was working toward.

He knew the stakes.

He knew what the wide road led to and what the narrow road led to.

And rather than that knowledge making him grim, it made him generous.

It made him want to pull as many people as possible onto the narrow road, not with fear, but with enthusiasm for the destination.

The heart with the key.

I’ve thought about that drawing for years.

What does a heart with a key mean? The locked heart, the one that has sealed itself against love, against forgiveness, against the possibility of being changed.

That was the image he had brought back from the vision.

The people who were frozen, who had locked something in and thrown away the key and the key itself.

What does the key mean? Maybe this that every heart has one [music] and you’re the one who carries it.

And the question is whether you use it to open yourself or whether you hold it so tightly it cuts your hand.

He was 12 years old when he drew that.

After the beatatification in 2020, a team working on the digital archiving of Carlos files discovered something that I had not been aware of.

On the old computer, the one from his working years, there was an HTML file dated 2003, a web page that he had programmed, apparently just for himself, not published, not shared.

When someone opened it during the archiving process and called me in to see it, the screen showed a black background, white letters animated, moving across the screen one at a time, building a sentence the way his video files always did, letter by letter, as if the words were arriving rather than simply appearing.

The sentence read, “Hell is not a place God sends you.

It is the absence you choose, but I choose presents for you, Mom, and for everyone.

Carlo, a web page built in 2003 when he was 12, left on a hard drive for 17 years, waiting to be found.

I want to stay with that for a moment because I think it matters.

He didn’t tell anyone about that file.

He didn’t mention it to me or to his father or to anyone working on his websites.

He just built it, saved it, and left it there.

In 2003, this 12-year-old boy who had just come home from a retreat carrying a vision of hell sat down at his computer and built a small private web page addressed to his mother, saying, “I choose presents for you and for everyone.

How do you know at 12 that your mother is going to need that sentence? How do you know that years from now after you’ve died, someone is going to open an archive file and find a black background and white letters and that the person who needs it most is going to be in the room? How does a 12-year-old calculate all of that? He doesn’t.

He doesn’t calculate it.

He just does it because love at that level of intensity doesn’t wait to calculate.

It acts.

It builds things.

It leaves things.

It operates on a frequency that bypasses ordinary cause and effect and moves directly toward the people it loves across whatever distances are in the way, including the distance of death, including the distance of 20 years.

Before we get to the end of this, I want to stop and be honest with you about something because you’ve been with me through this whole story and you deserve my honesty.

Did any part of this reach you? I’m not asking about Carlo specifically.

I’m asking about the thing underneath the story.

The question of whether we are living as if the narrow road matters.

Whether we’re carrying resentments we haven’t decided to put down.

Whether we’re choosing love before it’s too late, or whether we’re telling ourselves we’ll get to that later, when things settle down, when the timing is better, when it’s more convenient.

Carlo came home from a retreat at 12 with the urgent loving message that there is no later.

There is only the choice you’re making right now in this moment with the people who are currently in your life.

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And this one, I believe, needs to keep traveling.

Now, let me tell you how this story ends.

Or rather, how it doesn’t end.

Because here’s the thing about Carlo’s vision that took me the longest to understand.

He didn’t come home from that retreat haunted.

He came home commissioned.

There’s a difference and it’s everything.

Haunted means the frightening thing follows you around and won’t let you go.

Commissioned means you’ve been given a specific job and the frightening thing you’ve seen is the reason the job matters.

Carlo was commissioned.

He knew what was at stake.

He knew with vivid experiential clarity what a life spent turning away from love amounted to.

And that knowledge didn’t paralyze him.

It gave him a reason to build websites, to pray, to make friends, to have conversations, to bring cups of tea to his mother at 2 in the morning.

the website.

I want to talk about the website for a moment because I don’t think most people understand the connection between the vision and the catalog of Eucharistic miracles.

Carlo told me that night after describing heaven that he was going to build a website so that everyone can know that Jesus is close.

That’s the link.

Not an abstract theological statement, not a vague spiritual impulse, a direct response to what he had seen in hell.

Absence in heaven presence.

Jesus in the Eucharist presence specific and physical and available in every tabernacle in every church in every city in the world.

If people knew that, Carlo thought, if they really understood it, it would change the calculus.

It would make the narrow road more visible.

It would make the choice for love more possible.

So, he built a tool, a database, a catalog of every documented eucharistic miracle, mapped and cross-referenced and made accessible.

Evidence for people who needed evidence.

Invitation for people who needed invitation.

Presence mapped out.

Pinned to geography.

Given a history made undeniable.

That’s what the website was.

That’s what it’s still doing years after the hands that built it stopped moving.

He used his particular gifts.

the programming, the organizing, the systematic thinking in the service of the thing the vision had commissioned him to do.

He didn’t wait until he had different gifts or until he was older or until he had more time.

He used what he had.

He was 12 years old with a laptop and a vision of hell and a passion for making things.

And he put all of it together and got to work.

That’s the thing I find myself returning to in the years since his death.

In the nights when I wake up and can’t get back to sleep.

Not the vision itself.

Not the terrible silence or the frozen faces or the resentment turned to stone.

Not even the beauty of the heaven he described.

The hug that doesn’t squeeze too hard.

The look that sees each person as the only one.

What I return to is the response, the way he took what he had been shown and translated it immediately into action, the specificity of it, the practicality, the website, the morning masses, the conversations with friends who were struggling, the pages of a notebook addressed to a future version of his mother who would need to hear something, the HTML file on a hard drive waiting 17 years to be opened.

He was always working.

He was always building.

He was always leaving things for people to find.

I think about the drawing he made that night, the two roads, the wide one ending at a wall, the narrow one going off the edge of the page.

I think about the footnote in the notebook, the heart with the key.

I think about the web page with the black background and the white letters.

And I think this is what it looks like when someone has been given a vision and decides to use it.

Not to impress people, not to claim special status, not to perform holiness, to do the concrete, practical daily work of love, informed by the clearest possible understanding of what the alternative looks like.

He wasn’t afraid of me being afraid.

He brought me the cup of tea and he sat on the edge of my bed and he described heaven to me because he understood that the antidote to fear is not the absence of information.

It’s more information, better information, the complete picture, not just the dark part.

And the complete picture for Carlo was always oriented toward hope, toward invitation, toward the specific, personalized, unrelenting love of a God who, as Carlo put it, looks at each person as if they’re the only one.

He was right about so much, about more than I can list here, and more than I’ll understand before I die.

But the thing he was most right about was the simplest thing.

That the choice is always available, right up until it isn’t.

That love is always possible, right up until it closes.

That the narrow road is always there, however narrow it gets.

And that choosing it is something you can do right now in this specific moment with what you have, wherever you are.

My son at 12 years old came home from a retreat and told me this, not as theology, not as argument, as something he had seen with his own eyes in the deep quiet of an adoration that cracked him open and let him see all the way through to the bottom of what’s at stake.

And then he did what you do when you’ve seen something that important.

he told his mother, went to his room, opened his notebook, got out a pencil, and started working.

I still have the drawing.

Two roads, the wide one ending at a wall drawn with those firm final lines, the narrow one going off the edge of the paper.

I still have the notebook, the detailed description of the vision, and at the bottom, the footnote in pencil.

It’s your turn to trust that I’m okay.

I trust.

Not perfectly.

Not without the nights when grief is loud and trust is hard and the absence is sharper than I expected.

But in the morning after the hard nights, I always come back to it.

The trust, the tea, the quiet certainty of a 12-year-old boy sitting on the edge of his mother’s bed in the dark, who had been to a place most people never see and had come back not broken but commissioned.

Who had looked at what he saw and decided.

More love, more prayer, more work, a website, morning mass, a notebook page addressed to the future, a heart with a key.

He left so many keys.

He was always leaving keys for anyone who would pick them up and use them.

I pick them up when I find them, and I try to do with them what he always did, pass them on.

That’s why I’m telling you this story, not to impress you with the extraordinary things my son experienced.

He wouldn’t have wanted that.

He would have wanted you to walk away from this with the one thing he was always trying to say, which is the one thing that was never about him.

Choose love before it’s too late.

That’s it.

That’s the whole message.

Not a theological treatise, not a complex spiritual program.

a 12-year-old in jeans and gray sneakers looking at his mother with eyes that had seen more than they should have, saying, “Love is the answer, and the time to choose it is now, and everything else.

The websites and the miracles and the beatification and the notebook pages and the HTML files waiting to be found, all of it is just different ways of saying the same thing in whatever language reaches you.

He found a language that reached me.

He built one carefully, specifically for his skeptical father and his frightened mother and the people who would find his story in languages he never learned and countries he never visited.

He built it the way he built everything with precision and love and the focused patience of someone who understood that the work was worth doing even when its effects wouldn’t be fully visible for years.

When I sleep badly now and I wake in the dark with the weight of his absence, I don’t call up the vision of hell.

I call up the tea, the edge of the bed, the voice that described heaven in the dark, the hug that never squeezes too hard.

And I think about my son who is in that place where love doesn’t end, who is looking at everyone as if each one is the only one who chose presence and is still, I believe, with everything I have choosing it.

He chose it for me.

He chose it for you if you’re watching this.

He built things and left them so you would know.

Open what he left you.