Then they led me to the prison gate and told me to go.

I walked out of Evan Prison into the bright sunlight of a tan morning.

I had no money, no phone, nowhere to go.

I had been released, but I was not truly free.

My old life was gone.

And I knew, and standing there squinting in the light after so much darkness that I could not stay in Iran.

The country I loved, the home I had known all my life, was no longer a place where I could live.

I had found truth, and that truth had made me a stranger in my own land.

I stood outside the prison gates, weak and disoriented, and I whispered a prayer of thanks.

I had survived.

I was alive.

And God had been with me in the darkness.

Now I needed him to show me the way forward.

Uh because I couldn’t see it on my own.

The taxi driver, who finally agreed to take me home, looked at me with suspicion and pity.

I must have looked terrible after a year in prison.

My clothes hung on me like rags on a scarecrow.

My hair had grown long and unckempt.

I had a beard that made me look like someone I did not recognize when I glimpsed my reflection in the car window.

I had no money for the fair.

The driver agreed to wait while I went inside my apartment to get payment.

Oh, as we drove through Tehran, I saw the city as if for the first time.

It looked the same, but felt different.

Or perhaps I was the one who had changed.

The streets I had walked for 40 years seemed foreign now.

I was a stranger in my own city.

When we reached my apartment building, I climbed the stairs slowly.

Each step required effort.

My body was weak from inadequate food and no exercise.

I reached my door and knocked because I had no keys.

For a long moment, nothing happened.

I knocked again.

The door opened.

Mina stood there.

When she saw me, she gasped and put her hand over her mouth.

We stared at each other.

Then she pulled me inside quickly and locked the door behind us.

She had changed, too.

Her face looked older.

There were lines of worry around her eyes that had not been there before.

She had lost weight.

We stood in our own living room like awkward strangers.

She asked if I was all right.

I said I was home.

She started to cry.

I held her and felt her shaking in my arms.

Neither of us spoke.

What was there to say? Over the next few days, I learned what had happened while I was gone.

Mina had been questioned multiple times by security agents.

They had asked about me, about my beliefs, about whether she knew of my interest in Christianity.

They had pressured her to divorce me.

They had told her she would be tainted by association with me.

She had not divorced me.

I do not fully understand why.

Perhaps loyalty, perhaps love, perhaps just stubbornness.

She had waited, living on savings and money borrowed from her family.

Our apartment had been searched.

Some of my books had been confiscated.

She had lived under constant surveillance and suspicion.

My parents had been told I was in prison.

They were ashamed.

My father had stopped going to our family mosque because he could not bear the whispers.

My mother had become ill from the stress.

They did not want to see me.

Mina had spoken to them when I was released and my father had said he had no son.

That was the message she delivered to me in a quiet voice while we sat in our living room.

Your father says he has no son.

I felt that news like a physical blow.

I had expected it, but the reality was still painful.

I thought of all the years of my childhood, my father teaching me to pray, teaching me to memorize the Quran.

All of that was erased now.

I had become dead to him.

Mina asked me what I believed.

She asked if I was a Christian now.

And I looked at her and knew this was a crucial moment.

I could lie.

I could tell her it had all been a misunderstanding, that I was still a Muslim, that my studies had simply been academic.

That lie might save our marriage.

That lie might let us try to rebuild some kind of normal life.

But I could not lie, not after everything.

I told her the truth.

I told her I believed in Jesus Christ.

I told her I could not go back to Islam.

Uh I told her I was sorry for the pain this caused her, but I could not deny what I knew to be true.

She sat in silence for a long time.

Then she said she did not understand.

She said she had tried to understand while I was in prison reading some of the materials I had left behind, but she could not see what I saw in Christianity.

She could not believe what I believed.

I asked her what she wanted to do.

She said she did not know.

She said she still cared about me, but she did not know if she could stay married to someone who had left Islam.

She said she needed time to think.

We lived together in a strange limbo for the next several weeks.

We were polite to each other, but distant.

We slept in the same bed, but did not touch.

We ate meals together in silence.

The apartment felt like a prison almost as much as Evan had.

I reported to the authorities as required, signing papers confirming I was still in Thran and still under their watch.

I tried to find work, but no one would hire me.

My reputation was destroyed.

Word had spread about why I had been imprisoned.

No university would touch me.

No company wanted someone with my background.

I sold some of our belongings to get money.

Books, furniture, things we did not need.

Mina did not object.

I think she knew what I was planning even before I fully admitted it to myself.

I could not stay in Iran.

This knowledge grew clearer each day.

I was not truly free.

I could not practice my faith openly.

I could not speak honestly about what I believed.

I was alive but not really living.

I was a ghost haunting the remnants of my old life and there was real danger.

My release from prison had been provisional.

The authorities could change their minds.

New complaints could be filed.

someone could decide I needed to be made an example of.

I had heard of people being released from Evan only to be arrested again months later and never seen again.

I began making plans to leave.

I did this carefully, secretly.

I researched how people escaped Iran.

The borders with Turkey and Iraq were possible but dangerous.

The airport was monitored.

I would need to be clever.

I contacted someone I had known from university who I thought might help.

He had always been somewhat liberal in his views.

I met him at a cafe and told him I needed to leave the country.

I did not tell him why.

He asked if I was in trouble.

I said it was complicated.

He gave me the name of someone who helped people cross the border into Turkey.

I met this second man in a park.

We walked and talked quietly.

He said he could arrange passage for a price.

I did not have much money, but I offered what I had.

He said it was not enough.

I asked what I could do.

He said I could work off the debt once I reach Turkey.

I agreed.

What choice did I have? He told me to be ready to leave on short notice.

He said he would contact me when everything was arranged.

He warned me not to tell anyone, not even family.

People talk, he said, “And talk gets people arrested.

” I went home and looked at Mina.

I knew I needed to tell her.

That night, I asked her to sit with me.

I told her I was planning to leave Iran.

I told her it was not safe for me to stay.

I asked if she wanted to come with me.

She looked at me with tears in her eyes.

She said she could not.

She said this was her home, her family, her life.

She said she understood why I had to leave, but she could not abandon everything to go with me.

She asked if I hated her for this.

I told her I did not hate her.

I told her I understood.

I held her and we both cried.

Our marriage was ending and we both knew it.

Not with anger or betrayal, but with sadness and resignation.

We had become two people who could no longer walk the same path.

Over the next two weeks, I prepared.

I sold everything I could sell.

I gathered my identification documents and what little money I had.

I bought a backpack and filled it with a few clothes, some food, a bottle of water.

I hid a small New Testament in the lining of the backpack.

It was the only possession that truly mattered to me.

The call came on a Tuesday evening.

The contact told me to be ready to leave the next morning.

He gave me an address where I should meet the driver.

He reminded me to bring all my money.

He said once I left Thran, I should not try to contact anyone.

I spent that last night in my apartment with Mina.

We did not sleep.

We talked about our years together, the good times before everything fell apart.

We acknowledged that we had loved each other once, even if that love was not strong enough to survive what had happened.

At dawn, she helped me finish packing.

Then she walked me to the door.

We stood in the doorway.

I wanted to say something profound and something that would capture the complexity of everything we had shared and everything we were losing.

But I could not find the words.

So I simply said I was sorry.

She said she was sorry too.

We embraced one final time.

Then I left.

I took a bus across Tehran to the address I had been given.

It was an auto repair shop in a neighborhood I did not know well.

I went around to the back as I had been instructed.

A van was waiting with two other men inside who were also leaving.

We did not exchange names.

We got in the van and the driver pulled out into the morning traffic.

We drove for hours heading northwest toward the border.

The landscape changed from city to countryside to mountains.

We stopped once for fuel and to use a bathroom.

The driver told us to stay in the van and not draw attention.

Then we continued.

As we drove, I watched Ton disappear behind us.

The city where I was born, the city where I had lived my entire life.

Uh, the city I would probably never see again.

I felt grief rising in my chest, not just for the city, but for everything it represented.

My family, my career, my identity as an Iranian.

All of it was being left behind.

But I also felt something else.

A sense of moving toward something rather than just away from something.

I was leaving behind everything familiar.

But I was moving toward freedom, toward the possibility of living honestly, and toward a place where I could be who I had become.

rather than who I was expected to be.

We reached the border region after dark.

The driver took us to a house where we waited.

There were other people there also waiting to cross.

Some were Kurds.

Some were Afghans who had been living in Iran.

Some, like me, were Iranians who had reasons to leave.

We were given instructions.

We would cross on foot at night.

There would be a guide who knew the paths that avoided border patrols, and we should bring nothing that would make noise.

We should follow exactly and ask no questions.

If we were caught, we should say nothing about who had helped us.

We waited until nearly midnight.

Then the guide arrived.

He was a young man who looked like he had done this many times.

He led us out of the house and into the darkness.

There were eight of us crossing together.

We walked for hours through rough terrain.

The mountains were steep and rocky.

I stumbled frequently.

My body was still weak from my time in prison.

Several times I thought I could not go on, but the others kept moving and I forced myself to keep pace.

At one point we had to hide when we heard vehicles in the distance.

We crouched behind rocks and stayed absolutely still.

I could hear my heart pounding.

I prayed silently that we would not be discovered.

After the vehicles passed, we continued.

Just before dawn, the guide stopped.

He pointed ahead and said we were in Turkey now.

He said we should walk toward the town we could see in the valley and find the refugee office.

Then he turned and headed back the way we had come.

We had made it.

I was out of Iran.

I stood there as the sun began to rise over the mountains and felt emotions I could not name.

relief, fear, grief, hope, all mixed together.

I walked down from the mountains with the others.

My legs were shaking from exhaustion.

When we reached the town, we found the place where refugees were supposed to report.

There was already a line of people waiting.

I joined the line and waited my turn.

When I finally reached the desk, I told them I was seeking asylum.

They asked why.

I said I was a Christian convert from Iran and I would be killed if I returned.

They took down my information and gave me a paper with a number on it.

They told me to go to a camp where I would be processed.

The camp was a collection of tents and temporary structures housing hundreds of refugees.

I was assigned a tent I would share with five other men.

I was given a blanket and told when meals would be served.

Then I was left to figure out the rest on my own.

I found a place in the tent and put down my backpack.

I sat on the ground and put my head in my hands.

I had escaped.

I was alive.

I was free from Iran.

But I was also homeless, penniless, uncertain about the future.

I did not know how long I would be in this camp.

I did not know where I would eventually be sent.

I did not know if I would ever build a normal life again.

But I pulled out the small New Testament from my backpack.

I opened it and read the words of Jesus.

Come to me all who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest.

I was weary.

I was heavy laden.

And I was learning to come to him to trust him even when I could not see the path ahead.

That night I attended a Christian gathering in the camp.

Someone had told me there was a group that met in one of the tents.

I went and found about 20 people there, mostly Iranians and Afghans.

They were singing worship songs in Farsy.

When they saw me, they welcomed me warmly.

After the singing, they asked if anyone wanted to share their testimony.

I stood up and for the first time, I told my story publicly.

I told them about being a philosophy professor, about reading the Bible, about questioning Islam, about prison, about escape.

When I finished, several people had tears in their eyes.

They came and embraced me.

They said they understood.

They said they had similar stories.

They said I was not alone.

That night, surrounded by other refugees in a camp in Turkey, I felt the fellowship of believers for the first time.

These were my brothers and sisters.

Now, not by blood or nationality, but by faith.

We had all paid a price to follow Jesus.

We had all lost much, but we had gained something worth more than what we lost.

I spent three months in that camp.

Three months of waiting, of paperwork, of interviews with officials from various countries.

I applied for asylum in several Western nations.

I was rejected by some, others kept me waiting.

Finally, I received word that my application had been accepted by a country in Europe.

I would be resettled there.

I would be given temporary housing, assistance in learning the language, help in finding work.

It was not much, but it was a chance to start over.

The day I left the camp, I said goodbye to the friends I had made there.

Some of them were still waiting for their own applications to be processed.

We prayed together.

We promised to remember each other.

Then I boarded a bus that would take me to the airport.

On the plane, flying over countries I had only read about in books.

I thought about the journey that had brought me to this point.

from a comfortable professor’s office to a prison cell to a refugee camp to a seat on this plane.

It seemed impossible that this was my life.

But I also thought about what I had found.

I had found truth.

I had found Jesus.

I had found a faith that was real, that had sustained me through the darkest valleys.

and I had found that I could trust God even when I could not understand his plans.

As the plane descended toward my new home, I whispered a prayer of thanks.

Thanks for protection.

Thanks for preservation.

Thanks for the freedom I was about to experience.

I was starting over with nothing, but I was not really starting with nothing.

And I was starting with Christ.

And that I was learning was everything.

The apartment they gave me was small.

One room with a narrow bed, a table, two chairs, a tiny kitchen area in the corner.

The bathroom was shared with three other apartments on the same floor.

The building was old and the heating did not work well, but it was mine and it was in a country where I could live without fear.

I arrived in winter.

The cold was different from the cold in Thrron.

It was damp and penetrating.

I had only the clothes I had carried in my backpack inadequate for this climate.

A social worker took me to a charity shop where I was given a warm coat, a pair of boots, some sweaters.

I felt like a child being dressed by strangers.

Everything was foreign.

The language was foreign.

The food was foreign.

The way people interacted was foreign.

I had spent 40 years in Iran where I understood every social cue, every unspoken rule.

here.

I understood nothing.

I was illiterate in a thousand small ways.

I was enrolled in language classes.

I sat in a classroom with other refugees and immigrants.

All of us struggling to learn basic words and phrases.

Please, thank you.

Where is the bathroom? How much does this cost? Simple things that children knew but we did not.

I was a university professor with a doctorate in philosophy and I could not order food in a restaurant or ask directions to the post office.

The humiliation of this was crushing at times.

I I would go back to my small apartment at night and feel the weight of everything I had lost.

My career, my reputation, my language, my culture, my family.

I had given up everything to follow Jesus.

And some nights I lay in that narrow bed and wondered if I had made a terrible mistake.

I tried to find work, but my credentials meant nothing here.

My doctorate from an Iranian university was not recognized.

My years of teaching experience were irrelevant.

I did not speak the language well enough to teach or do any professional work.

I applied for cleaning jobs, warehouse jobs, any work I could find.

After 2 months of searching, I was hired to work in a commercial kitchen washing dishes.

The pay was minimal, but it was something.

I worked eightour shifts standing at a large sink, scrubbing pots and pans, loading dishwashers, taking out trash.

My hands became raw from the hot water and harsh soaps.

My back achd from standing.

I came home each night exhausted.

This was my new life.

Dr.

Raza Farhadi, former professor of philosophy, washing dishes in a restaurant kitchen.

The fall could not have been more complete.

There were moments when I felt angry at God.

I had given up everything for him.

Was this what I got in return? Poverty, loneliness, manual labor.

But then I would remember Evan prison.

I would remember the darkness of that cell.

I would remember the fear and the interrogations and the isolation.

And I would realize that I was free now.

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